It’s a sad feeling to see your child discover herself she is never going to be as good as she thought about something. Off late the kid has had sobering realization that she is never going to be as good at swimming as some of her friends are (a couple are in top 5 nationally for their ages), while my kid though is good is strictly middle of the curve. We knew that. But it’s still sad to see herself discovering it. We are not the sugar coating “if you dream it you will” type parents, but we have been inculcating the value of sports, camaraderie, health and overall interest and fun in swimming. So our focus has been to encourage her to think how much better she already is compared to many others, and how much this is going to help her health, and may be even land a summer job or two and even it doesn’t, it’s nothing lost. It’s ok being just ok at something.