At the funeral I asked his dad, How can we best help him? to which he replied Nothing. Its a journey he has to take alone. You can be on the side beta, but ultimately he needs to walk it alone. Its forever etched in my memory now, the way he said it in the most matter-of-fact way. He was 100% right of course, but to maintain that level of composure and thought reminded me of my own grandpa who pulled me aside on the 13th day of rituals and told me From now on, your mom is a just a story in your life.
DS
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